What does true active listening feel like?
For my part, I might suggest recalling the experience of reading. When you are engaged with what you’re reading, that’s some of the most active listening I can think of. Note: This may also explain why, in general (from my experience anyway), people who read a lot are better listeners - and are more thoughtful, more patient, etc. - than those who don’t.
When active listening happens, I also feel a loss of my sense of self as separate from the speaker, even as I remain aware of my ‘self’ as listener/counselor/friend.
The way that people swallow pills will probably tell you a lot about their temperament. Four words: ability to let go. I myself have gone from a controlled, swing-head-back motion, to a totally let-go-and-trust-the-process approach of bowing forward to let gravity do its thing. It was hard at first, but once you learn to let go, it all goes down a lot easier. :]